Like anything in life, managing a relationship well is a matter of observation and maintenance. We must put time and effort into it, and not neglect it. Kindling a fire or watering a plant may be used as important metaphors for this process, although of course, the reality is a little more complex.
This is why it’s important to reassess your relationship from time to time. Of course, ‘reassessing’ suggests considering if it has any value, and sometimes, that may imply that a problem has caused you to think in that direction. But that’s simply not true. Relationships evolve, for better and worse, and often both at the same time in different ways. This is why it’s important to not only view it as one ‘given,’ but as a continual reality we must keep in mind and consider.
But how can you reassess in the healthiest manner? And what might this reveal to you in the long run? It’s worth asking these questions so we can implement the best possible solution, or to keep things working as well as they are. Let’s get started, and consider this in advance:
Are You Still A Team?
Are you and your partner still a team, or have you split into singular entities? A good relationship means sometimes being able to put their needs above your own, and to ask if you can sometimes switch this without fear of criticism or retribution. If you feel that someone is not in your corner, but actually opposed to it, there’s a good chance that finding ‘couples rehab near me’ is an essential search you should make.
How Is Your Communication?
Can you communicate? Or does it always devolve into conflict? This may signify the platform from which the both of you are beginning to speak. Speaking to and at each other are completely different efforts with vastly different results. Sometimes assessing just how you listen to one another and if conversations are contributive or point-scoring will grant you further insight. From there, you can either work on improving your communication through valid mediation services, decide further argumentative discourse is unhelpful, or celebrate those long and consideration conversations you have.
Do You Keep The Spark Alive?
How is the spark kept alive? Even something as simple as cooking dinner for your partner can be an act of love. Heading to see the movies, or watching one at home can help you spend more time together. Do you make the effort to do things together, or do you have your separate friend groups and only live together through a form of necessity? How might you improve this? A relationship is not predicated on whether you have a ravenous attraction to one another or if you share a Prince Charming and Cinderella-esque story, but if you can be great friends and include one another in that which you love and appreciate about life.
With this advice, I hope you can easily and reliably reassess your relationship from time to time. It may just be the positive stimulus you are looking for!
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Thank you for reading!